Guilt has a hard edge. Being unable to forgive also has a hard edge. Both constrict us, and knock us off balance. When they become chronic they cause free-floating anxiety and fear. Forgiving the other person, done usually as a solo activity, does not mean they are right and unaccountable. This is where we must distinguish between the person and his or her actions, even though the distinction is a bit fuzzy. We forgive the person, but the harmful actions need to be held accountable. Remember, practicing forgiveness is a form of self-compassion. It takes heavy stuff off our shoulders and lightens our load. Start with the little hurts, gaining momentum for forgiving the bigger hurts. As this usually takes time, we need patience. Forgiveness opens the heart to joy and love.
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We all have this potential
Forgiving ourselves creates a beautiful cake called a ‘torma’ in Tibetan. On a deeper level this “cake” is actually the enlightened mind of a Buddha. We all have this potential. Forgiveness helps ripen this. So […]
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Forgiveness is letting go of pain and hurt
Forgiveness is the lynchpin that unlocks our heart. It allows energy to flow. Holding tightly to grudges and hurts blocks the flow of energy, leading to mental pain and physical pain. Tightly holding onto and […]
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Let’s return to the important attitude of forgiveness
After making the commitment and starting the process of reducing our anger, let’s return to the important attitude of forgiveness. The process of forgiveness is important for our own happiness and peace of mind. It […]