Often, we beat ourselves up for no good reason other than habit, our habit of thinking we are stupid, ugly, clumsy, unlikeable, and just no good. That insecurity is actually not ours. It was “given” to us by others usually when we were little. Just as it was imposed on us, we have every right to dispose of it. Of course, it is not easy. No longstanding habit is easy to get rid of. Nevertheless, it is possible, if we really want to, deep in our heart and bones, to dispose of self-doubt and guilt. Convincing ourself how unhealthy it is and how it makes us feel small and unhappy is the crucial step. Practice mindfulness to notice when it arises. Then show it the back door! Do this again, again, and again, overcoming insecurity step by step!
Feelings of guilt are destructive as we discussed in the last post. But how do we get rid of guilt? We recognize guilt as an old habit, often from childhood. So, this will take time […]
We tend to be our worst enemy. We can find fault with the itsy-bitsy teeny-weeny whiff of a potential mistake. With this itsy-bitsy teeny-weeny whiff of a mistake we come down heavy on ourself in […]