To say that humility is an essential ingredient in our pursuit of spiritual transformation may seem to be at odds with what His Holiness the Dalai Lama has said about the need for confidence. But there is clearly a distinction to be made between valid confidence or self-esteem, and conceit – which we can describe as an inflated sense of importance, grounded in a false image of self.
This chronic disease of cherishing ourselves is the cause giving rise to our unsought suffering. Recognizing this, we seek the courage and strength to blame, destroy, and say no to this monstrous demon of selfishness. […]
Merely thinking that compassion and reason and patience are good will not be enough to develop them. We must wait for difficulties to arise and then attempt to practice them. When we recognize anger arising, […]