Learning how to smooth out the bumps in our lives is crucial for a happy life. Much of the time “bumps” have both an external and internal component. We often make things worse through our lack of patience, our strong clinging and attachment, or our aversion like anger and jealousy. Working to reduce these helps to smooth out the “bumps.” Going deeper, we ask ourselves, who is this ‘I” who is angry, attached, or jealous? When we try to investigate and search for this ‘I’ we have trouble clearly identifying it and trouble precisely pinpointing it. This brings a deeper relaxation and easier relationship with the “bumps,” hence smoothing them out further.
If indeed the qualities such as love, patience, tolerance, and forgiveness are what happiness consists in, and if it is also true that compassion, defined as concern for others, is both the source and the […]
Patience acts as a counterforce to anger. In fact, for every negative state, we can identify one that opposes it. Humility opposes pride; contentment opposes greed; perseverance opposes indolence; and appreciation or rejoicing opposes jealousy. […]