Learning how to smooth out the bumps in our lives is crucial for a happy life. Much of the time “bumps” have both an external and internal component. We often make things worse through our lack of patience, our strong clinging and attachment, or our aversion like anger and jealousy. Working to reduce these helps to smooth out the “bumps.” Going deeper, we ask ourselves, who is this ‘I” who is angry, attached, or jealous? When we try to investigate and search for this ‘I’ we have trouble clearly identifying it and trouble precisely pinpointing it. This brings a deeper relaxation and easier relationship with the “bumps,” hence smoothing them out further.
Patience is golden. It gives us pause rather than kneejerk reaction. It allows us to take a deep breath, and consider the consequences of getting angry — making us unhappy, bringing future problems, not to […]
To familiarize ourselves with the virtue of patience, it is very helpful to think of adversity not so much as a threat to our peace of mind but rather as the very means by which […]