We all have dark shadows. Sometimes they have little influence. Other times they have much influence. Regardless, they are just shadows. They are not who we really are. Learning to separate self-criticism, guilt, and the other negative emotions from who we really are is very healthy. Imagine these negative emotions to be a cloud way over there in a blue sky floating across the sky and finally disappearing. Or see them like images in a dream. When we wake up and see them as false, and in fact non-existent. In this way we become more whole and happier human beings.
Guilt blocks our full happiness, yet we often beat ourselves up, and then feel guilty in the process. This is selfish as it drains our energy on ourself. Learning to be kind to others must […]
Sometimes things go wrong. This is normal. But in Tibetan there is a saying, “nine times failing, and nine times trying again.” This is a very practical approach to failure, free of guilt. Failure feels […]