We all have dark shadows. Sometimes they have little influence. Other times they have much influence. Regardless, they are just shadows. They are not who we really are. Learning to separate self-criticism, guilt, and the other negative emotions from who we really are is very healthy. Imagine these negative emotions to be a cloud way over there in a blue sky floating across the sky and finally disappearing. Or see them like images in a dream. When we wake up and see them as false, and in fact non-existent. In this way we become more whole and happier human beings.
Guilt has a hard edge. Being unable to forgive also has a hard edge. Both constrict us, and knock us off balance. When they become chronic they cause free-floating anxiety and fear. Forgiving the other […]
Overturning ingrained habits takes time. It is not easy and requires commitment. To make this commitment to ourself, we need to be convinced the habit is not longer working well in our life, and in […]
Self-doubt can riddle us with guilt and paralyze our actions. We are all valuable people in different ways yet we sometimes forget. Opening the heart and focusing outward towards others brings confidence and courage to […]