Another effective method to reduce anger involves imagination or visualization. Again we try to recognize anger early, when there is irritation, frustration, fast heartbeat and breathing, getting quiet or the opposite, loud. Often there is fear, and maybe anxiety. Imagine this early anger transforming into a cloud that is imagined way over there in the sky. It drifts across the sky and dissipates. With this so does our early anger. Notice we have not suppressed the early anger, but actually transformed it into tolerance. Of course this does not work the first time so we must be persistent.
Often at the root of anger is fear. Gandhi thought this to be true, that fear is our worst enemy. They often go together – fear, uncertainty, doubt, discomfort, irritation, and then anger. How can […]
At one level, forgiveness means you shouldn’t develop feelings of revenge. Revenge harms the other person. It is a form of violence and usually leads to counter-violence – so the problem never goes away. At […]