Let’s explore patience a bit more. It involves managing and reducing anger. Suppressing anger doesn’t help; later it comes back with a vengeance. We need to transform it. When you churn milk you get butter – no more milk. In the same way recognizing anger at its early stages is key to transforming it. Be mindful and notice your early signs of anger – maybe feeling irritated, frustrated, anxious, fearful, rapid heart beat, fast breathing, even sweating are some of the common early signs of anger. When you train yourself to recognize these early signs, tell yourself, “I might be getting angry.” Then think, “the other person is not happy since happy people do not provoke, and it takes two to tangle.” Then think, “why is s/he not happy? Maybe relationship issues, health issues, or money issues.” Just thinking this way for a short time calms down the insipient anger, as it has nowhere to go. Anger is narcissistic and needs the spotlight. When we do not focus on it, it shrivels. Of course this approach does not work the first time. So be persistent. Never give up!
The root of the problem
For those interested in understanding the teachings of the Buddha, to eliminate suffering for oneself and others, this schema presented in the last post is crucial to understand. The root of the problem is a […]
Be calm and balanced
The strength of our emotional patterns can be overwhelming. Given the right circumstances, that are not always obvious, the same patterns of anger, jealousy, pride, and attachment recur. They seem to come out of the […]
Another method to transform anger
Are you ready to go further? I would like to share with you another method to transform anger into tolerance, understanding, and eventually compassion. This one comes from the 8th Century Indian Buddhist saint, Shantideva. […]