If we are ready, let me mention one more approach to managing anger. Again, the key is early recognition of anger. Get familiar with the signs that happen in you. When you identify these, think, ”maybe I am getting angry.” Then consider, “the other person is not happy, because happy people do not provoke.” Then consider why she/he is not happy. Maybe they had some difficulties in a relationship — some bad words, or misunderstanding. Or maybe some health issues – went to the doctor and told to return for more tests. Or, maybe some financial strains. Taking less than a minute to consider where the other person might be coming from, takes the wind out of the sails of our early anger. Anger is narcissistic. It needs attention. It needs the spotlight. Denying this, it withers. Of course not the first time, so be persistent.
Another effective method to reduce anger involves imagination or visualization. Again we try to recognize anger early, when there is irritation, frustration, fast heartbeat and breathing, getting quiet or the opposite, loud. Often there is […]
Not neglecting generosity, but adding to it, we move to the practice of patience. This we’ve discussed in more detail under the heading of anger management in several recent posts, but I will summarize, as […]