If we are ready, let me mention one more approach to managing anger. Again, the key is early recognition of anger. Get familiar with the signs that happen in you. When you identify these, think, ”maybe I am getting angry.” Then consider, “the other person is not happy, because happy people do not provoke.” Then consider why she/he is not happy. Maybe they had some difficulties in a relationship — some bad words, or misunderstanding. Or maybe some health issues – went to the doctor and told to return for more tests. Or, maybe some financial strains. Taking less than a minute to consider where the other person might be coming from, takes the wind out of the sails of our early anger. Anger is narcissistic. It needs attention. It needs the spotlight. Denying this, it withers. Of course not the first time, so be persistent.
Are you ready to go further? I would like to share with you another method to transform anger into tolerance, understanding, and eventually compassion. This one comes from the 8th Century Indian Buddhist saint, Shantideva. […]
Most people assume that anger arises from something outside themselves such as frustrating events or other people’s actions. With some reflection we come to realize that no one makes us angry. We make our selves […]