Now that we have begun the process of forgiving, of course it won’t work right away. We need to be persistent, and very importantly not beat ourselves up when we are blocked and unable to forgive. We are never a failure, just “working on it.” Being gentle with ourselves, remembering to rejoice and be happy for even considering forgiveness, is seeing the larger perspective. Often we have a narrow focus and forget the bigger picture. This can lead to guilt. Broadening our perspective improves our options, giving us more room to operate and more emotional space to relax. Taking good care of ourself translates into better care for others.
We are continuing our journey through this classic short text written about 1000 years ago on cultivating compassion. Verse 5 from this text, ‘8 Verses of Mind Training’ by Langri Thangpa,’ reads: “When others out […]
At one level, forgiveness means you shouldn’t develop feelings of revenge. Revenge harms the other person. It is a form of violence and usually leads to counter-violence – so the problem never goes away. At […]