Just “working on it.”

Now that we have begun the process of forgiving, of course it won’t work right away. We need to be persistent, and very importantly not beat ourselves up when we are blocked and unable to forgive. We are never a failure, just “working on it.” Being gentle with ourselves, remembering to rejoice and be happy for even considering forgiveness, is seeing the larger perspective. Often we have a narrow focus and forget the bigger picture. This can lead to guilt. Broadening our perspective improves our options, giving us more room to operate and more emotional space to relax. Taking good care of ourself translates into better care for others.