Now that we have begun the process of forgiving, of course it won’t work right away. We need to be persistent, and very importantly not beat ourselves up when we are blocked and unable to forgive. We are never a failure, just “working on it.” Being gentle with ourselves, remembering to rejoice and be happy for even considering forgiveness, is seeing the larger perspective. Often we have a narrow focus and forget the bigger picture. This can lead to guilt. Broadening our perspective improves our options, giving us more room to operate and more emotional space to relax. Taking good care of ourself translates into better care for others.
Forgiveness is an important corollary to compassion, as is gratitude. Both attitudes dampen the tendency to think, “I am right,” falling into righteousness. By reducing strong clinging and grasping to myself, both attitudes soften the […]
We often get trapped in the trees, and lose sight of the forest. The bigger picture, or perspective is freeing. It puts things in perspective. It allows us to take a deep breath and observe […]