Overturning ingrained habits takes time. It is not easy and requires commitment. To make this commitment to ourself, we need to be convinced the habit is not longer working well in our life, and in fact is keeping us back from experiencing deeper happiness. This process is taking good care of ourself. It is sometimes called, “self-compassion,” recognizing through the help of mindfulness our dysfunctional patterns. Mindfulness helps us to look inside repeatedly to identify what is happening in our emotional and cognitive lives. This recognition is crucial. Once we able to recognize our bad habits, we can move forward convincing ourselves that we don’t need them anymore. It is important to notice this process is free of beating ourselves up, free of guilt. This is how we begin overturning our bad habits.
Meditation and mindfulness are like dance-partners. They each support the other gracefully. There are two types of meditation: focused (shamatha) and contemplative (analytical). Focused meditation also is translated as calm abiding, concentration, and single-pointed meditation. […]
It seems counter-intuitive, but the more we care for others the better we care for our self. The more we work at transforming anger, jealousy, and pride into patience, appreciation, and humility, the better we […]