Overturning ingrained habits takes time. It is not easy and requires commitment. To make this commitment to ourself, we need to be convinced the habit is not longer working well in our life, and in fact is keeping us back from experiencing deeper happiness. This process is taking good care of ourself. It is sometimes called, “self-compassion,” recognizing through the help of mindfulness our dysfunctional patterns. Mindfulness helps us to look inside repeatedly to identify what is happening in our emotional and cognitive lives. This recognition is crucial. Once we able to recognize our bad habits, we can move forward convincing ourselves that we don’t need them anymore. It is important to notice this process is free of beating ourselves up, free of guilt. This is how we begin overturning our bad habits.
Jealousy and negative judgment are quite common, yet they do not make us feel good. Usually they constrict our heart and make us feel closed. Not recognizing jealously and negative judgment, as they usually hide […]
Nov. 10, 2018 “Peacefulness” Meditation Program in Tokyo Message from Dr. Barry Kerzin We all live very stressful lives. Our sleep is often disturbed. We often find we do not have enough time. Inside […]
Let’s review anger management as this is our pillar for cultivating compassion. Patience and tolerance are cultivated through transforming anger. Tolerance can easily flourish into love and compassion. Anger management does not mean suppressing our […]