We often forget to forgive ourself. Hurts build up inside of us again and again. These hurts cause deep pain. They can fester, and wall off like an abscess. It is imperative that we clear these hurts in order to feel well before they become too ingrained. Forgiveness is the way to do this. Usually forgiveness is a “solo” activity that we do ourself. We can tell the other person, but this is often not necessary. How do we forgive ourself? We start with the small hurts. Mindfulness helps us get in touch with our pain, our hurt feelings. Identifying our pain is the first step. Once identified we expand our fixed notions about the other person who has hurt us. We try to see that person in a bigger light, remembering the positive qualities she or he may have. We try to remember the good times we shared in the past. Then with a motivation to heal ourself, we remember how important it is to let go of the hurt. This does not mean the other person is right. Rather it is self-healing to let go of the hurt to cultivate a feeling of wellbeing.
Never forget the joy, even if you are not feeling it, remember it. This is our true default setting – joy and love. Even remembering it can help lift the cloud, at least a little. […]
Forgiveness towards ourself opens doors to tranquility and contentment. We learn to let go of the pain we’ve caused ourself. All the unnecessary self-harms are now ready to be liberated. We walk taller and breath […]