In the last post I discussed boosting low self-confidence. It is important not to overshoot and become arrogant. Therefore, ‘healthy self-confidence’ is our goal. Healthy self-confidence is putting no one down, not myself and not others. We aim to find this balance. How do we do this? Compassion and selflessness are key. Compassion orients us towards concern for others. This counters the tendency towards arrogance. Compassion also boosts our self-doubt and low self-esteem. It does this by shifting the constant focus away from me, me, and me to focus on others. In this way the anxiety and fear generated by the constant worry, “am I good enough,” is lessened by taking the focus away from myself and putting it on concern for others. We spend less self-preoccupation time, and more time being concerned about the wellbeing of others. This is the approach to cultivating healthy self-confidence.
Compassion is often misunderstood. We don’t have a good English word for ‘nyingje’ in Tibetan, or ‘karuṇā’ in Sanskrit. In addition to ‘wishing and acting to relieve suffering,’ compassion is nourished by wisdom. It is […]
This awesome text on compassion written nearly 1300 years ago, called ‘8 Verses of Mind Training’ by the humble Samurai Spiritual Warrior Langri Thangpa.’ Verse 7 reads: “In short, may I directly and indirectly Offer […]
October 24, 2018 Human Values Meditation Practice Group We will learn about compassion and meditation from a video of the latest lecture by Dr. Barry Kerzin and we will practice meditation together. *Staff from Human […]