In order to overturn our negative habits, we must first recognize them, and then convince ourselves they are dysfunctional. Without doing this we will not be able to overturn them. Just like quitting smoking. To start with, we must convince ourselves of the harm to ourself, family, etc. Then we “dig our heels in” and get touch. Strong willpower is required. Then we can do it! Harm from anger is both physical and mental. It raises our blood pressure, damages our heart, weakens our immune system, and creates tension in the body. Mentally, it robs us of our peace. It takes away our ability to clearly assess a situation. If we get angry towards a bodhisattva (remember they do not wear labels, “bodhisattva”), it permanently deletes our complete store of merit and virtue collected over countless time. Repeatedly convincing ourself of the harm resulting from our anger we will gain the confidence that we can do it! We can gradually overturn anger. Please vote!
We are filled with dysfunctional habits. One is putting our self down. Probably we’ve been doing this since childhood. It is time to let go. Recognize the associated thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. Remember the […]
Another effective method to reduce anger involves imagination or visualization. Again we try to recognize anger early, when there is irritation, frustration, fast heartbeat and breathing, getting quiet or the opposite, loud. Often there is […]
We tend to judge ourselves and compare ourselves with others. Sometimes we feel we are not as good as others. At other times we feel better than others. This is all the tricky mischievous ego. […]