At one level, forgiveness means you shouldn’t develop feelings of revenge. Revenge harms the other person. It is a form of violence and usually leads to counter-violence – so the problem never goes away. At another level, forgiveness means you should try not to develop feelings of anger toward your enemy. Anger doesn’t solve the problem. It brings uncomfortable feelings to yourself and destroys your own peace of mind. And at another level, forgiveness means to forgive yourself, and not be angry with yourself. We all make mistakes. To error is to be human. While we do not want to promote mistakes, on the other hand we recognize they are part of life. We do not want to continually berate ourself over mistakes. Rather, move on. Move on. Move on.
Please remember the ‘8 Verses of Training the Mind (in compassion)’ is meant to be lifelong study and practice. The last verse is particularly tough all about the Buddhist wisdom of reality not being what […]
Not neglecting generosity, but adding to it, we move to the practice of patience. This we’ve discussed in more detail under the heading of anger management in several recent posts, but I will summarize, as […]
Our default position whenever possible is forgiveness and gratitude. Forgiveness counters arrogance and ego. This moves us towards insight and wisdom. Gratitude opens our heart to compassion. Wisdom and compassion lead to the two bodies […]