At one level, forgiveness means you shouldn’t develop feelings of revenge. Revenge harms the other person. It is a form of violence and usually leads to counter-violence – so the problem never goes away. At another level, forgiveness means you should try not to develop feelings of anger toward your enemy. Anger doesn’t solve the problem. It brings uncomfortable feelings to yourself and destroys your own peace of mind. And at another level, forgiveness means to forgive yourself, and not be angry with yourself. We all make mistakes. To error is to be human. While we do not want to promote mistakes, on the other hand we recognize they are part of life. We do not want to continually berate ourself over mistakes. Rather, move on. Move on. Move on.
Forgiving ourselves creates a beautiful cake called a ‘torma’ in Tibetan. On a deeper level this “cake” is actually the enlightened mind of a Buddha. We all have this potential. Forgiveness helps ripen this. So […]
Let’s explore patience a bit more. It involves managing and reducing anger. Suppressing anger doesn’t help; later it comes back with a vengeance. We need to transform it. When you churn milk you get butter […]