Learning about changing our attitudes, reactions, and behavior is just the first step. We must “walk the talk.” We must put into action what we’ve learned. Without doing that, it is like a chocolate cake without the chocolate. It is like fondue without the cheese. Mindfulness plays a crucial role alerting us to what we need and when we need it. Observing our inner thoughts and feelings in the present alerts us to harmful attitudes and emotions. That is when we intervene and put into practice transforming anger into tolerance, jealousy into appreciation, arrogance into humility, selfishness into love, and misunderstanding into insight. These interventions will not work the first time since our harmful habits are so ingrained for such a long time. Persistence with the attitude of “never giving up” is essential.
Feel it and let it pass
Relax into difficulties. Don’t let your emotions pull you by the nose. On the other hand, try not to suppress your negative emotions. Just relax. Do not allow yourself to be carried away by emotion. […]
May I firmly face and avert them
Verse 3 from the ‘8 Verses of Mind Training’ by Langri Thangpa reads, “In all activities may I examine my mind; As soon as conflicting emotions arise Endangering myself and others, May I firmly face […]
Imagining our early anger as a cloud that dissipates, transforming anger into tolerance, can be very effective. Yet to fully get rid of our anger, and all of our destructive emotions like jealousy, pride, greed, […]