This is the season of gratitude and generosity in the United States. Thanksgiving holiday just passed and Christmas and Hanukah are coming later this month. Many people feel happy and are friendlier during this season. Yet for many, this is a challenging season. For many of us it is the first family gathering after a sorely missed loved one has died. It may be a time when memories of loved ones who have passed are more vivid and painful. And for others it is a time when memories of loved ones who have passed are bitter / sweet. We remember joyful times. We also remember painful times. All of these different feelings are grist for the mill, to help us become less attached. These relationships will never die, yet our attachment can be loosened. This gives us more freedom to dance in many new ways honoring those who’ve passed.