We tend to be our worst enemy. We can find fault with the itsy-bitsy teeny-weeny whiff of a potential mistake. With this itsy-bitsy teeny-weeny whiff of a mistake we come down heavy on ourself in a way we would never do to someone else. Why? What is the rationale? Do we stop and observe and reflect recognizing the absurdity? Usually not. It is just habit that perpetuates itself. Habits have causes. Causes can be overturned, if we genuinely want to. Let’s start overturning this destructive habit of self-flagellation. Recognize it, see the absurdity, and even chuckle. Then show this totally undeserved behavior the back door.
We tend to judge ourselves and compare ourselves with others
We tend to judge ourselves and compare ourselves with others. Sometimes we feel we are not as good as others. At other times we feel better than others. This is all the tricky mischievous ego. […]
We all want to be well
In our everyday life we have the strong habit to notice and judge others based on differences. It may be gender, age, skin color, ethnicity, country of origin, language and accent, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, […]
Practice mindfulness to notice when self-doubt and guilt arises
Often, we beat ourselves up for no good reason other than habit, our habit of thinking we are stupid, ugly, clumsy, unlikeable, and just no good. That insecurity is actually not ours. It was “given” […]