guilt

Guilt is old fashioned. It is outdated. It is dysfunctional. We need to say “bye bye, we don’t need you anymore” to guilt. Actually, we never did need guilt, but it became a deep routed […]

Self-doubt can riddle us with guilt and paralyze

Self-doubt can riddle us with guilt and paralyze our actions. We are all valuable people in different ways yet we sometimes forget. Opening the heart and focusing outward towards others brings confidence and courage to […]

How we begin overturning our bad habits

Overturning ingrained habits takes time. It is not easy and requires commitment. To make this commitment to ourself, we need to be convinced the habit is not longer working well in our life, and in […]

Between low self-esteem and over self-esteem

Oscillating between low self-esteem and over self-esteem we ride the waves of life. Finding the balance and center helps even out the ups and downs; a breath of fresh air — calm and peace. When […]

Correcting the course

When our attitude or mood is a little down we must be careful. Our mind can easily turn to criticism and cynicism. We can start doubting others and doubting ourselves. During these times it is […]

“Nine times failing, and nine times trying again.”

Sometimes things go wrong. This is normal. But in Tibetan there is a saying, “nine times failing, and nine times trying again.” This is a very practical approach to failure, free of guilt. Failure feels […]

Guilt is like a deep nagging toothache

Guilt is like a deep nagging toothache. It robs us of our energy, enthusiasm and joy. It is an uninvited guest, often hanging around for many years. So it is time to tell this guest […]

Living without constantly doubting ourselves

Living without constantly doubting ourselves, yet on the other hand not thinking we know more than others, is a healthy attitude. Training our minds to have more concern for the welfare of others leads to […]

Guilt blocks our full happiness

Guilt blocks our full happiness, yet we often beat ourselves up, and then feel guilty in the process. This is selfish as it drains our energy on ourself. Learning to be kind to others must […]

Guilt erodes everything good

Guilt erodes everything good. It erodes our confidence. It erodes our compassion especially for ourself. It also erodes our sense of wellbeing. So how can we reduce our guilt? The first thing is to recognize […]