Today’s Topic

We often get trapped in the trees

We often get trapped in the trees, and lose sight of the forest. The bigger picture, or perspective is freeing. It puts things in perspective. It allows us to take a deep breath and observe the whole situation. Feeling overwhelmed does the opposite. It makes us feel like we are trapped in a small corner with no way out. The bigger picture gives us room to look around and assess [...]

We miss all of this richness

When you’re hot you’re hot. When you’re not, you’re not. But it doesn’t really matter. What matters is deeper. What matters is if you are happy and loving. What matters is how you motivate your day. Is it solely to make money? Is it solely to look good? Is it solely to develop a good reputation? Is it solely about “number one” – me? If so, then life is quite [...]

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Acceptance comes naturally

Gratitude is an attitude connected with appreciation. We feel grateful for being alive. We feel grateful for our next breath. We feel grateful for the beauty around us, the trees, the sky, the butterfly, the hummingbird. On a deeper level it involves grace. The state of grace is smooth, balanced, and subtle, where the mind is calm and peaceful and the body feels in harmony with all of nature. The heart feels wide open allowing love to flow easily. Acceptance [...]

Forgiveness is the spice of life

Forgiveness is the spice of life. Without it, life is bland at best. Forgiveness opens our heart and allows us to breathe fully. It brings a smile, and fills the heart with joy. Keeping hurts walled off inside is like a smoldering fire, or worse, a spreading cancer. These walled off hurts rob us of our peace of mind and good health. Letting go on all levels is the path. Clinging tightly to hurts blocks our progress, let alone blocking [...]

but not too much!

It is important to believe in ourselves, but not too much! The balance is believing in ourself but not over-inflating into arrogance thinking we are better, smarter, more beautiful than others. Self-confidence inspires us. Humility keeps us courageous able to act when necessary. Humility brings genuine lasting friendships. It keeps us transparent as there is nothing to hide. Transparency and honesty keep us calm allowing for a good night sleep. Others respect these qualities and are ready to help when [...]

Aretha Franklin, the Queen of Soul

Aretha Franklin, the Queen of Soul died today. She sang like she was channeling a higher power, maybe God, or maybe the innate luminosity potential for total goodness, beauty, and happiness. Even mosquitos have this potential. Most of us leave it dormant. A few special ones access it as love and beauty. HH Dalai Lama abides on this higher (or deeper depending on your metaphor) plane. This level of existence is infused with the wisdom of emptiness, recognizing that all [...]


Our thoughts and feelings

By being mindful and observing our thoughts and feelings we begin to notice our inner world. This is the first big step towards changing our reality. […]


The courage to be honest yet kind and respectful helps us face difficult situations. Just being brutally honest harming others is narrow-minded and shortsighted. Finding the courage to be motivated by genuinely caring for others and from that motivation being honest, breeds courage — a deep inner courage of love. Then whatever my come our way we can handle gracefully.