We have a strong tendency to react to difficult situations. Of course, when there is an emergency we must sometimes act immediately. But generally, it is best to wait and carefully assess the situation. When we are full of emotion, maybe irritation or anger, maybe jealousy, or even pride, are minds and hearts are clouded over. We cannot make good judgements. Yet when we are calmer, and have fully reviewed the situation, we are in a much better position to make good decisions. Recently this happened to me. My initial reaction was feeling betrayed and upset feeling not valued. Rather than react, I sat with these feelings until the next day. Repeatedly I remembered these events are the results of own previous actions. This calmed me down considerably, allowing me the next day to have discussions trying to figure out the situation clearly without being clouded by emotion.
We often get trapped in the trees, and lose sight of the forest. The bigger picture, or perspective is freeing. It puts things in perspective. It allows us to take a deep breath and observe […]
We are on an Easter egg treasure hunt searching for treasures. The treasures are not painted Easter eggs. Rather they are our destructive negative emotions, often lurking just under the surface. You might think, “these […]